How to Use (Not Abuse) the Medicine of Attention

Attention is one of the most important aspects of human existence, but also the most misunderstood and misused. 

When we give attention to ourselves in a nurturing and curious way, it's a powerful medicine that supports our essence and self-love. When we seek it through external validation it becomes a destructive drug we can never get enough of. 

So many people get these two things mixed up and find themselves leaning more on the attention they receive for what they do and achieve. 

Of course attention and affection from people who love us is incredibly nourishing, but instead of making it the whole cake, it should just be the cherry on top!

How do we start  regarding ourselves with love, curiosity, enough-ness? How does childhood provide the blueprint we use to give attention to ourselves? 

In this episode, we talk about the right way to deal with attention. 

Things You'll Learn In This Episode 

-How we move from competition to cooperation

We've been socialized to frame our relationships around competition but that's not the way human life actually occurs. How do we shift from competition to cooperation, collaboration and connection?

-How we go from being to doing for attention 

The way we were looked at and cared for as infants and children determines how we give love and attention to ourselves. What are some of the ways we're taught not to trust ourselves or embrace our own uniqueness? 

-Regard people with care, curiosity and wonder 

When we have someone in our lives who SEES us and wants to support who we are at our core, it gives us the foundation to see and support ourselves. How do we become that for others?  

 

About Your Hosts

Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.

 

Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.

 

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