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Well, it is slow down Sunday here on the sweet spot and man have we had a great week.
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We've had a fantastic week happen to be sweet spotters.
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So I'm Dr Derek Sweet for those of you who don't know me, I'm a board certified psychiatrist,
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I work with elite performers, but more than that, I really enjoy sitting across from you
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at the coffee table of life, just figuring it out, figuring out what is this mystery?
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What is this mystery we call life?
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And we've been unpacking this mystery with the great Darsal, Dylan Sweet, the sweet,
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our very first guest here on the sweet spot.
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For those of you who know the sweet spot, you know that we don't have guests on the sweet spot.
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This is new territory for us and we're going to be having more guests coming.
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Darsal is our inaugural guest, she is the queen, she is launching us out and Darsal, I have to say,
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this has been one of the most insightful sweet spots we have done.
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Wow, thank you for those wonderful accolades and it's a pleasure and a joy to be here with the sweet spotters
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and all the beautiful souls, thank you.
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So, Darsal, this is Slow Down Sunday, it's a time when we slow down, we reflect, we take it easy,
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we try not to introduce anything new here on Slow Down Sunday.
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And in fact, Darsal, we sometimes get a little bit, I call it spooky,
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we get into some astrophysics, we get into what the universe teaches us,
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I get into nature and the lessons from nature.
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And one of the things that we talk about is something that you and I discussed yesterday in self-care sanity,
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is the idea of how hard it is to slow down, how tough it is to be still.
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In the word, it says, be still and know.
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There's a knowing that comes from being still.
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Be still and know that I'm God, there's divine direction that comes from being still.
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And we were talking yesterday about how hard it is to take a deep breath to surrender.
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I call it the three or four S's, there's silence, which is tough to do.
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There's stillness, which is tough to do.
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There's solitude, which is tough to do.
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There's surrender, which is tough to do.
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And imagine silence and solitude and stillness and surrender,
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finding a time to allow those forces to have access to who we are,
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is the work that we tackle on slow down Sunday.
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And one of the things we say on slow down Sunday,
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is that nature gives us the lesson.
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The sun rises in silence, it sets in silence, yet it's so powerful.
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Grass grows in silence, and it's everywhere.
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The seasons change with a certain slowness.
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And then in the stillness of nature, we find such peace and joy.
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And the world sees me in absolutely no hurry.
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And yet, Darcelle, everything gets done.
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One of my favorite lines from, I think I borrowed this from Deepak Chopra is this.
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Do nothing and accomplish everything.
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Do nothing and accomplish everything.
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And I know for you that means five in five minutes, do nothing.
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Everything for five minutes, because I know, I know my sister, I know my wife,
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is not playing games about doing nothing.
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But there's something about that, because we have gotten to a place where we're doing everything
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all the time, it's frightening to folks to put their phones down, put another room,
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and just sit down and be with themselves.
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Or sit down and have an actual conversation with somebody where you're not looking at TV,
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you're not looking at the phone, you're not doing a million and one different things,
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being still, surrendering to the moment, and just dealing with it.
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What are your thoughts on my lengthy, so quote, the siliquery here?
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When I only wasn't beautifully said, I vibe with it, and you're in the sweet spot.
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And we all have to find our natural, slow down sweet spot.
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And I love that you mention nature and that you do get to the astrophysics
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on this particular segment on Sundays, because the truth is, we do need that sweet spot
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For me, yeah, that five minutes is sometimes tough to get, but there's another side of me
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as I've grown older, Dr. Sweet, and that is, I'm a beach walker, a beach walker,
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I'm a sky watcher, and I love, absolutely love the stars, and the clouds, and a good rain,
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and a good storm and a good sunny day.
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So nature does teach us a lot.
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So everything you said there, I vibe with it, because as we all do slow down, and we have to,
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you are dealing with a book on sleep soon.
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So most of you are fans out there who may not know that you're working on this.
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That is such a solitude and such an incredible, peaceful part of who we are as humans.
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Other animal sleep too, they all do.
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So that's a sweet spot that we all have that is demanded of our physique every single night.
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When you don't have it, you can't do much, you can't be at your best, you can't do any
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of the things you and I talked about all week.
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You can't finish strong, you can't win, there's a lot wrong when you don't get that sweet sleep.
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Wow, Dr. So I'm just blown away.
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Again, only you could say the sweet spot that I am in the sweet spot is the first person
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somebody told me, Dr. Sweet, you're in the sweet spot.
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And that's what it is here on slow down Sunday, finding your sweet spot.
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What's your sweet spot?
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What is your sweet spot?
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And do you even stay in it?
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Do you even know what it is?
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And as we think through the universe, as you said, the universe is out there, it teaches
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It's always speaking.
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It amazes me that the carbons and the hydrogens and the nitrogens and all of the various elements
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that compose the stars and compose the universe is what we're made of.
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We're fearfully and wonderfully made.
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But we're made of these elements that are in the universe.
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And yet, and still, it's not that we're in the universe, Darcelle.
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The universe is also in us.
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And there's a randomness to the universe, obviously.
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But at the same time, you and I are like two stars that collided.
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And now with this kind of supernova in our own world here, we have a new universe.
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We have our own universe with our moons and our sons and all the various constellations
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It's kind of cool that this happened.
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And we're kind of blessed and lucky that we get to vibe like this that we get to even
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talk here on a slow down Sunday.
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And I wonder if it's all about that.
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It's about the interactions, the connections.
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Just like the stars align for us.
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Social we may be aligned with each other.
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Social we may be aligned with our higher purpose.
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Maybe align with whatever we call God, the mystery we call God, whatever that is.
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We just literally, well, we did a series on alignment on the sweet spot.
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And I'm grateful, I'm grateful for you Darcelle.
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I'm grateful that the stars align that we found each other.
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I don't think it's just serendipity.
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I don't think there are any accidents.
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I think the universe is always speaking and that there's always a purposeful movement.
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There's such a thing called co-incidents, but in mathematics, it's not spontaneous
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I mean, there's just co-incidents, two things that happening simultaneously.
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And I know I tend to go off on this tangent, so I don't forgive me, but I'm just slowed
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And we definitely are always marveling Darcelle at the universe and how it not only holds
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us, but it teaches us.
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And I'm grateful that you will hear this week.
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And I'm going to go back and listen to all of our interactions.
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I'm sure there are things that I missed that I'm going to learn and slowing down is about
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And I would invite everyone if you haven't reflected on this week with me and Darcelle
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here on the sweet spot.
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And you want to just spend time doing something interesting, go back and listen.
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Just go back and listen.
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And don't listen to what we say, listen to how we're saying it, because I really believe
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there's the how that's underneath it all.
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And how you care for yourself, how you speak to yourself, how we speak to each other is
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also part of the healing, the wellness, and the future you that want this to really work.
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So Darcelle, how would you close us out here on, on slow down Sunday as we just freeflow
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Well, I'm glad you used to work freeflow, I was thinking as you were talking about slowing
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down and nature, there's series, and when I do slow down, I have to have an entertainment
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piece in front of me.
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So that's why I'm really able to watch some of the series I'm watching, some of the
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movies I'm watching, I can take the time out to allow my sensory to connect with what's
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in front of me on that screen.
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And it's full of human, it's full of stories, it's full of folk going through stuff.
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So there's one series I just watch called Ripple.
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And if you're out there listening, you haven't heard of it, look it up because your life
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is a rippling effect.
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And that's in the short episode happening.
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It's also circumstantial and situational.
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When a rippling effect happens on a lake, you throw a rock.
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And you see wave, after wave, after wave, after wave, it ripples.
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And it just begins to flow, and that ripple just grows.
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So a rippling effect in all our lives, when we slow down enough to catch onto it, it
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goes back into it, Dr. Sweet is talking about coincidence and incidents and situations.
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So one action gets another action.
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And when you have that rippling effect, it's movement, something is happening.
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So even when you slow down, I would like to leave everybody with understanding life is
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And those ripples connect us to other people's lives.
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As you say that, I'm thinking past, future, present.
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We divided up into that, but there are ripple effects.
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We've lost loved ones.
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New ones have come into the world.
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There's yesterday, there's today, there's tomorrow.
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In astrophysics and physics, there's really no past, future, or present.
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There's just this dynamic, there's ripples, there's rippling effects, rippling effects.
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So with that metaphysical, very metaphysical ending, we are going to close out.
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The sweet spot here, our very first interview with our very first guest, inaugural moment,
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pioneering moment with the great and the inevitable, Darcell, Dylan, sweet.
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I know you enjoyed everyone's sweet spotters, I know you enjoyed Darcell, I know you did.
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She is a breath of fresh air, she's spring.
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And we love you Darcell, we thank you for your time, your energy, your wisdom, we thank
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you for your bubbly spirit, your just your honesty, your integrity, all of what makes
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you you, may God bless you and I'll see you tonight.
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Thank everyone for listening and this has been the sweet spot and it's been my sweet
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And if you haven't subscribed to the sweet spot, now is a great time because we're going
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to be bringing on guests and men, we're going to be just growing and growing and allowing
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the good Lord to lead us where the good Lord wants us to be.
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Darcell, what's that thing you see at the end of wisdom and Wednesday that how you say