Slow Down Sunday 7/7: Finding Your Slowdown, Interview with Darcel Dillard - Suite

Well, it is slow down Sunday here on the sweet spot and man have we had a great week.

We've had a fantastic week happen to be sweet spotters.

So I'm Dr Derek Sweet for those of you who don't know me, I'm a board certified psychiatrist,

I work with elite performers, but more than that, I really enjoy sitting across from you

at the coffee table of life, just figuring it out, figuring out what is this mystery?

What is this mystery we call life?

And we've been unpacking this mystery with the great Darsal, Dylan Sweet, the sweet,

our very first guest here on the sweet spot.

For those of you who know the sweet spot, you know that we don't have guests on the sweet spot.

This is new territory for us and we're going to be having more guests coming.

Darsal is our inaugural guest, she is the queen, she is launching us out and Darsal, I have to say,

this has been one of the most insightful sweet spots we have done.

Thanks to you.

Wow, thank you for those wonderful accolades and it's a pleasure and a joy to be here with the sweet spotters

and all the beautiful souls, thank you.

So, Darsal, this is Slow Down Sunday, it's a time when we slow down, we reflect, we take it easy,

we try not to introduce anything new here on Slow Down Sunday.

And in fact, Darsal, we sometimes get a little bit, I call it spooky,

we get into some astrophysics, we get into what the universe teaches us,

I get into nature and the lessons from nature.

And one of the things that we talk about is something that you and I discussed yesterday in self-care sanity,

is the idea of how hard it is to slow down, how tough it is to be still.

In the word, it says, be still and know.

There's a knowing that comes from being still.

Be still and know that I'm God, there's divine direction that comes from being still.

And we were talking yesterday about how hard it is to take a deep breath to surrender.

I call it the three or four S's, there's silence, which is tough to do.

There's stillness, which is tough to do.

There's solitude, which is tough to do.

There's surrender, which is tough to do.

And imagine silence and solitude and stillness and surrender,

finding a time to allow those forces to have access to who we are,

is the work that we tackle on slow down Sunday.

And one of the things we say on slow down Sunday,

is that nature gives us the lesson.

The sun rises in silence, it sets in silence, yet it's so powerful.

Grass grows in silence, and it's everywhere.

The seasons change with a certain slowness.

And then in the stillness of nature, we find such peace and joy.

And the world sees me in absolutely no hurry.

And yet, Darcelle, everything gets done.

One of my favorite lines from, I think I borrowed this from Deepak Chopra is this.

Do nothing and accomplish everything.

Do nothing and accomplish everything.

And I know for you that means five in five minutes, do nothing.

Everything for five minutes, because I know, I know my sister, I know my wife,

is not playing games about doing nothing.

But there's something about that, because we have gotten to a place where we're doing everything

all the time, it's frightening to folks to put their phones down, put another room,

and just sit down and be with themselves.

Or sit down and have an actual conversation with somebody where you're not looking at TV,

you're not looking at the phone, you're not doing a million and one different things,

being still, surrendering to the moment, and just dealing with it.

What are your thoughts on my lengthy, so quote, the siliquery here?

When I only wasn't beautifully said, I vibe with it, and you're in the sweet spot.

And we all have to find our natural, slow down sweet spot.

And I love that you mention nature and that you do get to the astrophysics

on this particular segment on Sundays, because the truth is, we do need that sweet spot

of our stillness.

For me, yeah, that five minutes is sometimes tough to get, but there's another side of me

as I've grown older, Dr. Sweet, and that is, I'm a beach walker, a beach walker,

I'm a sky watcher, and I love, absolutely love the stars, and the clouds, and a good rain,

and a good storm and a good sunny day.

So nature does teach us a lot.

So everything you said there, I vibe with it, because as we all do slow down, and we have to,

you are dealing with a book on sleep soon.

So most of you are fans out there who may not know that you're working on this.

That is such a solitude and such an incredible, peaceful part of who we are as humans.

Other animal sleep too, they all do.

So that's a sweet spot that we all have that is demanded of our physique every single night.

When you don't have it, you can't do much, you can't be at your best, you can't do any

of the things you and I talked about all week.

You can't finish strong, you can't win, there's a lot wrong when you don't get that sweet sleep.

Wow, Dr. So I'm just blown away.

Again, only you could say the sweet spot that I am in the sweet spot is the first person

somebody told me, Dr. Sweet, you're in the sweet spot.

And that's what it is here on slow down Sunday, finding your sweet spot.

What's your sweet spot?

What is your sweet spot?

Have you found it?

And do you even stay in it?

Do you even know what it is?

And as we think through the universe, as you said, the universe is out there, it teaches

us.

It's always speaking.

It amazes me that the carbons and the hydrogens and the nitrogens and all of the various elements

that compose the stars and compose the universe is what we're made of.

We're fearfully and wonderfully made.

But we're made of these elements that are in the universe.

And yet, and still, it's not that we're in the universe, Darcelle.

The universe is also in us.

And there's a randomness to the universe, obviously.

But at the same time, you and I are like two stars that collided.

And now with this kind of supernova in our own world here, we have a new universe.

We have our own universe with our moons and our sons and all the various constellations

around us.

It's kind of cool that this happened.

And we're kind of blessed and lucky that we get to vibe like this that we get to even

talk here on a slow down Sunday.

And I wonder if it's all about that.

It's about the interactions, the connections.

Just like the stars align for us.

Social we may be aligned with each other.

Social we may be aligned with our higher purpose.

Maybe align with whatever we call God, the mystery we call God, whatever that is.

Finding alignment.

We just literally, well, we did a series on alignment on the sweet spot.

And I'm grateful, I'm grateful for you Darcelle.

I'm grateful that the stars align that we found each other.

I don't think it's just serendipity.

I don't think there are any accidents.

I think the universe is always speaking and that there's always a purposeful movement.

There's such a thing called co-incidents, but in mathematics, it's not spontaneous

happening.

I mean, there's just co-incidents, two things that happening simultaneously.

So I'm excited.

And I know I tend to go off on this tangent, so I don't forgive me, but I'm just slowed

out Sunday.

And we definitely are always marveling Darcelle at the universe and how it not only holds

us, but it teaches us.

And I'm grateful that you will hear this week.

And I'm going to go back and listen to all of our interactions.

I'm sure there are things that I missed that I'm going to learn and slowing down is about

doing that.

And I would invite everyone if you haven't reflected on this week with me and Darcelle

here on the sweet spot.

And you want to just spend time doing something interesting, go back and listen.

Just go back and listen.

And don't listen to what we say, listen to how we're saying it, because I really believe

there's the how that's underneath it all.

And how you care for yourself, how you speak to yourself, how we speak to each other is

also part of the healing, the wellness, and the future you that want this to really work.

So Darcelle, how would you close us out here on, on slow down Sunday as we just freeflow

into another week?

Wow.

Well, I'm glad you used to work freeflow, I was thinking as you were talking about slowing

down and nature, there's series, and when I do slow down, I have to have an entertainment

piece in front of me.

So that's why I'm really able to watch some of the series I'm watching, some of the

movies I'm watching, I can take the time out to allow my sensory to connect with what's

in front of me on that screen.

And it's full of human, it's full of stories, it's full of folk going through stuff.

So there's one series I just watch called Ripple.

And if you're out there listening, you haven't heard of it, look it up because your life

is a rippling effect.

And that's in the short episode happening.

It's also circumstantial and situational.

When a rippling effect happens on a lake, you throw a rock.

And you see wave, after wave, after wave, after wave, it ripples.

And it just begins to flow, and that ripple just grows.

So a rippling effect in all our lives, when we slow down enough to catch onto it, it

goes back into it, Dr. Sweet is talking about coincidence and incidents and situations.

So one action gets another action.

And when you have that rippling effect, it's movement, something is happening.

So even when you slow down, I would like to leave everybody with understanding life is

full of ripples.

And those ripples connect us to other people's lives.

Amen.

As you say that, I'm thinking past, future, present.

We divided up into that, but there are ripple effects.

We've lost loved ones.

New ones have come into the world.

There's yesterday, there's today, there's tomorrow.

In astrophysics and physics, there's really no past, future, or present.

There's just this dynamic, there's ripples, there's rippling effects, rippling effects.

So with that metaphysical, very metaphysical ending, we are going to close out.

The sweet spot here, our very first interview with our very first guest, inaugural moment,

pioneering moment with the great and the inevitable, Darcell, Dylan, sweet.

I know you enjoyed everyone's sweet spotters, I know you enjoyed Darcell, I know you did.

She is a breath of fresh air, she's spring.

And we love you Darcell, we thank you for your time, your energy, your wisdom, we thank

you for your bubbly spirit, your just your honesty, your integrity, all of what makes

you you, may God bless you and I'll see you tonight.

Thank everyone for listening and this has been the sweet spot and it's been my sweet

honor.

Absolutely.

And if you haven't subscribed to the sweet spot, now is a great time because we're going

to be bringing on guests and men, we're going to be just growing and growing and allowing

the good Lord to lead us where the good Lord wants us to be.

Take care.

Darcell, what's that thing you see at the end of wisdom and Wednesday that how you say

goodbye?

Ciao.