Spiritual Bypassing in Business {B'Day Fun D9 Ep 216}

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Hi everyone and welcome to this episode of Tuesday Talks with Darlene. What I want to talk about

today is spiritual bypassing in business. Yes, there's such a thing. Before we get started,

please like, share, comment and subscribe to my channel. I would really appreciate it because

it helps get the message out there. Now let's think about this. There's a version of spirituality

in business that sounds elevated. It talks about trust, alignment, divine timing, even energetics,

and all of that can actually be real and it is real, but sometimes that language becomes a

shield. It becomes a mask, not to elevate you, but to protect you from something uncomfortable.

And today I'm going to talk about spirituality, spirituality, that as well, spiritual bypassing

in business. Not avoid its alone because that's something different as well, but the subtle way we

use the spiritual concepts to avoid what requires courage, ownership of our own stuff, grounding

and structure. So just take a deep breath because I'm just getting the feeling that people are

going what the heck. And that's okay because it's not something I've actually seen people talk

about. And as you know me, I talk about raw and real. And if it's something that's affected me,

then it's probably something that it's affected you. And yes, I did actually do this in business,

part of what I did. Things like saying I trust the universe while avoiding a necessary decision

or conversation, and calling that delay alignment instead of fear. Yes, we trust the universe.

I say it all the time. I trust the universe. The universe has my back. That doesn't stop me

from making decisions and taking action though. If that is happening, it is fear. Labeling something

not aligned when what's actually present is fear of visibility or rejection or expansion or even

accountability. What are you being accountable to? Refusing structure, financial tracking or strategy

because it feels too corporate. As if the discipline lowers your conscience. And one of the

biggest ones I've seen is where it's talking about structure. I talk about structure all the time.

And people go, oh, but I'm this and I'm that, you know, labels. So I can't do structure. It just

doesn't suit me. Well, guess what? Everything in life is structure. Your day is a structure. Whether

it's organised or not, it is a structure. Everything is a structure. You get in your car to go

somewhere. There's a structure to that. Business has a structure. When you embrace that, guess what

happens? Business starts moving along better. So embrace the fact that everything is structure.

You might use phrases like everything happens for a reason to avoid examining the poor execution,

unclear messaging or even avoiding mistakes. So yes, everything happens for a reason. And the reason

is the fact that maybe messaging is wrong or you didn't do the launching, you know, maybe there

was things missing in the launch, things like that. Still happens for a reason. But guess what?

The reason was you. Yes, that might hurt. I'm responsible for me and my business,

me and I take responsibility. You might be suppressing frustration, jealousy, burnout or disappointment

because you believe a spiritual person shouldn't feel that way at all. No, I shouldn't feel like this.

And spiritual bypassing sounds wise. That's why it's hard to catch. And that's why I'm talking

about it today. The key difference is this, bypassing doesn't remove discomfort. It spiritualises it

so you don't have to feel or address it. Yep. Why do we do it though? That's the thing. Why do we

do these kind of things? Well, I could protect us from confronting possible failure. Now,

I don't believe there's such a thing as failure because that happened, maybe it didn't go so well,

then we look at it. If something wasn't meant to be, we don't have to evaluate our execution or

find our strategy because it protects us. It protects our identity. If we see ourselves as

intuitive, evolved or deeply conscious, admitting insecurity or missteps can feel destabilising.

It allows us to transcend emotions instead of processing them. Calling something low vibe feels

cleaner than saying, I'm hurt. I'm angry or I'm scared. We need to process the emotions because

if you don't process them and I know from experience, we keep, you know, they keep, it's like a cup

when you keep adding things to it. Guess what? Something's going to have to happen. Like a volcano,

it's going to explode. So we need to process our emotions and it creates emotional relief,

relief. Rising above something feels powerful in the short term, even if it delays real growth.

And bypassing is often an unconscious attempt to stay intact emotionally and it's okay. Now you're

aware of it. But suppressing discomfort doesn't integrate it. It buries it as I said and buried

emotions resurfaced in other ways. It was that I've experienced all that and it wasn't pleasant

at all. For me or people around me. Now what do we think grounded spiritual practice in business looks

like? Well, guess what? I'm going to tell you that. Trusting intuition while still checking the

data. Energetics and evidence are not the enemies. They actually inform one another. It's important.

Look at your numbers honestly. Instead of explaining them away with meaning.

Sometimes the issue is an energy. It's messaging, pricing or the execution.

Pretty cool. I love all this. Like that's why I'm so adamant about this stuff and talk about it.

Look at your numbers honestly. Now I, that's why I've repeated it for a reason.

I actually did an episode on this and I would actually link the episode in here because I want

you to look at your numbers honestly. Have a conversation with them. Have a relationship with them.

And having direct conversations instead of hinting at energy shifts. If something is off,

address it clearly and cleanly. Now for the last few weeks my sleep has been terrible and there's

lots of reasons for it and I'm processing things going through. It is also there is huge energy

going on at the moment and I mean huge. They're affecting me. Now I'm not bypassing any of that.

I'm tuning into it and I'm ensuring that what is mine stays mine and what isn't. I send it to the

angels for their support. I never send it back to the person because I just, I feel that's wrong.

I just feel that wrong. Now allowing uncomfortable emotions without labeling them as spiritually

regressive. So anger, jealousy, disappointment and fear are human experiences, not signs of

failure. There's many people out there that go, oh, you know, your anger in your jealousy is so bad.

Well, no, until it gets to a point where it actually affects, you know, yourself physically,

emotionally and others, then it's a problem and that's what's, you know, you need to do with

and that's where taking responsibility for yourself, for your emotions, for the results,

rather than outsourcing everything to destiny. Oh, it's all meant to be. It's all destiny.

Alignment supports action. It doesn't replace it.

And holding intuition and discipline at the same time, inner guidance without follow-through

is avoidance. Structure without awareness becomes rigid. Integration requires both.

And spiritual depths doesn't float above reality. It just doesn't, doesn't float above reality.

It stays embodied inside it. It stays embodied inside of us. And this is where your discernment

becomes essential because the line between alignment and avoidance can be subtle.

So, I want to give you some things to actually look at and do some self-check without self-judgment.

So, these are just a few things for you. Ask, am I using spiritual language to avoid a hard

feeling or a hard task? I want you to strip the language away and look at the core issue.

Now, I'm doing some study at the moment and there's questions and assignments and they use

what's called filler words because we want to make a sentence. So, let's put some filler words in

there. That is what the spiritual language can do. It can be filler words because you're avoiding

something. So, strip that language away and look at the core issue. Notice your body.

True alignment feels steady, even if it stretches you. By passing often feels like immediate

relief or escape. That's not the way it's meant to be. Not the way it's meant to be at all.

And I want you to replace the question, is this aligned with what emotion am I trying not to feel?

Now, both are good. Is this aligned? You can start with that and then you can go, okay,

let's turn into the body. What emotion am I trying not to feel? So, both can be good. Sometimes,

is this aligned? Is spiritual by passing? Is this aligned? Oh, great, yep, no worries and you'll

just move on. Still look at the emotions. If you feel it's aligned, still look at the emotions

because you never know what's going on. That shift, the shift of asking or replacing that question

actually reveals whether you're processing or suppressing. And check whether you are grounded.

Are you addressing practical realities, finances, boundaries, communication or are you staying

in abstraction? You're being or even distracted. What is happening? And I want you to be aware that

self awareness here isn't about shaming yourself. So, please let those thoughts go. Don't shame

yourself. It's about strengthening your integrity and emotional capacity.

Spirituality in business is powerful. It really is. It's so powerful. It sharpens intuition.

It deepens our resilience. It expands our perspective. I love my intuition with a passion.

Intuition is not meant to help you transcend your humanity though. You are human.

It is meant to deepen your capacity to engage with it. If your spiritual framework is helping

you feel your emotions, take responsibility, set boundaries and refine your strategy, then it's

serving you. Yet, if it's helping you avoid discomfort while calling it consciousness,

it may be time to look more closely. Spirituality doesn't remove the human parts of business.

It asks you to meet them grounded, emotional and honest. And isn't that a beautiful way to look at

things? Thank you very much for watching and listening, and I'll see you on the next episode.

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