When Yes Becomes No: How to Back Out of An Agreement

Have you ever said yes to so many things and then realize you've overcommitted and now have way too much on your plate?

Or maybe you agreed to something and then your circumstances changed and you just don't have the bandwidth for it anymore?

Or perhaps an initial 'yes' is now slowly morphing into a 'no' now that you have more info…

Noticing and voicing a change in agreement is something a lot of people struggle with - something we really have to practice to maintain and increase our aliveness.

We might feel guilty about wanting to change things up, or just decide to go through with something we don't actually want.

But here's the thing: it's a lot better to speak up than it is to do something that gets us out of alignment. Instead of writing a pros and cons list, our bodies will always tell us if we should still follow through with an agreement. If we learn to pay attention to this wisdom, we can navigate these choices better.

There are so many ways to renegotiate an agreement…we can change the time, sequence and amount of ourselves that we give. But first, we must get comfortable with advocating for ourselves.

How do we notice our inner conflict about an agreement? How do we handle changed agreements with self-kindness? In this episode, we talk about moving through a 'yes' that has become a 'no'.

Things You'll Learn In This Episode 

Learn to negotiate with yourself 

Sometimes an earlier commitment we made has to be changed because we no longer have the same bandwidth that we did before. How do we recalibrate and recommit with kindness? 

Use your whole body wisdom

When it comes to making a choice, most people list the pros and cons. How do we explore our inner landscape for the right answer? 

Integrity = alignment 

How do we navigate and renegotiate a change in an agreement without fleeing from ourselves?

 

About Your Hosts

Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.

 

Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.

 

Check out this episode on our website, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify and don't forget to leave a review if you like what you heard. Your review feeds the algorithm so the show reaches more people!