
You Can Get Through It: How to Handle the Hardest Things That Will Ever Happen to You | Dr. Lucy Hone
About this episode
Why the five stages of grief are a myth, a go-to phrase for when everything's falling apart, and three steps for getting through loss.
Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct fellow at the University of Canterbury and a sought-after professional speaker, a bestselling author, and an award-winning internationally published science educator. She is regularly featured in international media, including in The Guardian, Hidden Brain, and The Washington Post. Dr. Hone is a columnist for Psychology Today.
In this episode we talk about:
- A three-step recipe for getting through any major loss
- Why the five stages of grief are a myth
- The surprising research on who supports grievers best (hint: pets)
- Living losses vs. death losses — and why ranking grief doesn't help
- What it means to have your "assumptive world" shattered
- Rebuilding identity after loss: answering "who am I now?"
- Finding self-compassion through "real, not perfect," not perfectionism
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