
242. Leaning Into a Slow Burn When You're Used to Intensity & Sparks
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I'm covering everything you need to know about the slow burn, from why it feels so uncomfortable when you've only known whirlwind romances, to how to know if you're actually ready for it, to the signs you need to pump the brakes early on. I also get into where physical intimacy fits in, how to tell the difference between a slow burn and just not vibing with someone, and tips for enjoying the process. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about whether to keep the door fully closed on a connection that had potential.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
- Episode 111 — How to stay grounded in dating
- Episode 146 — Slow burn vs. dead end
- Episode 172 — When you want a slow burn but they're rushing it
- Episode 160 — We're attracted to the wrong people
- Study on friendship formation
- Instagram post on chemistry-boosting date ideas
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