Caroline Myss: "Transformation is So Bloody Hard."

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1:00You're cooked. If you haven't healed by now, you're not gone out. So keep going. LAUGHTER You're not. If you haven't gotten over your garbage by now, look at yourself and say, you're not gone out. You are a self-serving, bitter person. MUSIC Welcome back to the quote of the day. Show I Am Your Host, Sean Croxon of SeanCroxon.com. We got Dr. Carolyn Mace back on the show today. And our feature QOD is this transformation. It's so bloody hard. Like this stuff, it's not easy. It's uncomfortable. It's unsettling. It's like Steve Harvey was talking about yesterday. You're going to have to leave things behind.

2:00Leave people behind. Leave parts of yourself behind. It's like a constant shedding of one's own skin. And Dr. Mace is going to say a few things in this clip that some people aren't really going to like at all. But there will be many who walk away from this clip saying, you know what, I really needed to hear that. And what I like best about this talk is where she gets into the vibration that is emanating from your body. And it's real. It's called a torque field. If you want to read a crazy book about this, read the energy codes by Dr. Summorder. It's a few years old. She just dropped a new book, which may have some information about this as well. She's also on YouTube. But you have the torque field as well. Because the energy that your body is given off is really dependent upon your state of being, like your mood, what you're focusing on. If you're focusing only on darkness, you're going to have a dark vibration. You're just going to attract more dark stuff to you.

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4:04It's a privilege to be alive now. It's a privilege. But you better know how to be alive now. You better understand that transformation and doing something and not just for yourself, but for others is the name of the game. Woo! You're welcome. Okay. This isn't about us taking care of ourselves anymore. us taking care of ourselves anymore. Coming awake in terms of consciousness is about us becoming conscious. Not of ourselves in your history, your child, and stop it. You're too old for that. You're too old. You've been doing it for too long. Knock it off. You've had your years to heal. You're done. LAUGHTER You're done. You're cooked.

5:06If you haven't healed by now, you're not gone out. So keep going. LAUGHTER You're not. If you haven't gotten over your garbage by now, look at yourself and say, you're not gone out. You are a self-serving, bitter person. LAUGHTER Now figure out how to live with that. Your friends are sick of you. LAUGHTER They're sick of your bitching. They're sick of your complaining. You like being this way. You like manipulating others. You like looking at them and saying, the reason I'm not everything I could be is because I don't want to be. I want to take my suffering and punish others with it. So there. LAUGHTER Own it. Own it and get over yourselves. Look in the mirror and say, I don't want to try so hard because then I have to be responsible for my life. LAUGHTER And then what do I do?

6:06LAUGHTER Knock it off. Because what's expected of you is so much better. Is so much better. And by the way, when you discover there's so much better, you can take your wounds. You can still use them. Use them on Thursday afternoon. LAUGHTER Schedule? Your woundedness from one to five. Because let me just say, I know... LAUGHTER Today's the anniversary of my brother's death. He died a brutal death of alcoholism. He was a very wounded man. I think he couldn't get out of it. I'm not stupid. I'm not unkind. I'm not unfeeling. I spent years trying to get him out of it. Years.

7:06I would have been happy if he was wounded every Thursday afternoon. And I would have gone and let him have his way with that. But I also saw that it was real possible for him to lead a healthier life and not give up those wounds, but cooperate with him. And he didn't want to do it. And that was a choice. And I saw it in his eye. I saw it in his eye. And no one will ever be able to convince me. Will ever be able to look at me and say, he just couldn't help it. Oh, yeah. They could. Yeah. I will never, ever listen to that phrase. I can't help it. Lalalala. Lalalala. Yeah, you can. You can help it with weighted diction. You can help it with booze. You can help it with alcohol. Yes, you can. What you can say is, I can help it.

8:07And I don't want to. Because this way of life serves me. I like it. I like it. I don't want to transform. Because transformation is so bloody hard. And that's the truth. Yes. APPLAUSE And you know what? The truth, part two is, we've grown soft and we have to grow tough again. APPLAUSE Yes, we do. We have to grow tough again. Because what we need to be able to do is take a look and say, you know what? I am multi-sensory. I am a multi-sensory human being. You don't live in a five-sensory world anymore. This is who you are now.

9:07You live in a hologram. You grew up thinking you were five-sensory. And that before the nuclear age was true. But that's not true anymore. Now you are multi-sensory. You live in a field. It says, if I popped a whole bubble around you. Now, do you remember when you learned latitude and longitude, do you remember how the globe looked? Latitude, longitude. I want you to picture yourself standing in the center of that. Can do that? That's actually your field of energy. I want you to picture that when you think of yourself in terms of body, mind, spirit, what does that mean to you? What does that mean? What do you have in mind by that? I'll tell you what I know it means.

10:09It means that you have a high functioning energy field that is never not functioning. It is always going, because that's the law of vibration. You are always vibrating. You are always in communication. Your inner, I-N-N-E-R, your inner net, is always in touch with every single form of life. Your inner net. You are always communicating. Always. You are communicating with all life forms at all times. At all times. You are always pulling in a quality that matches your own attitudes. If you dwell in darkness, you pull in darkness.

11:13Just know that. If you dwell in darkness, you pull in darkness. If you dwell in light, you pull in light. When I teach about prayer, I can defy gravity. I teach you the seven graces that you should really imagine that you turn on every morning. That you literally just bless yourself every morning and turn on graces, because you have the power in you that you should look at the world and say, in every moment with every single person, all your interactions with everything. I can either grace this moment or withhold grace. That's essentially the choices we always have. I either withhold grace when I meet you or I don't. I either look kindly upon you or I don't.

12:14And that's how I either grace this or I don't. When I think about how we're going to get through this very tight passage between the old world that is filled with such darkness and greed and the world we have to get to, it's by making a decision in transformation that we essentially don't want to make, but we have to. We have to look at what we know we are, multi-sensory souls, and we have to use what we cannot yet see about ourselves, but we know to be true. It is irrelevant that you cannot yet see your senses. It is irrelevant that you cannot yet see the power

13:17of your soul in action. It is irrelevant, irrelevant, that you can't really understand how you exist in this landscape of energy. It is irrelevant that you do not get that when you close your eyes and say, help that person, bless that person, that grace actually is transmitted to that person, and that's how prayer works at a distance. That there is no distance in the energy world. It's irrelevant that you don't get your wish to see the consequences of all your actions because your fragile little ego needs it. It's time we lived by the laws of energy and the laws of grace because that is what is we are called to do now, because that's what's going to make a difference, and that's how powerful you are.

14:22That was Dr. Carolyn Mase for Website is Mase.com. You can watch today's entire talk on the YouTube. It's called the number one healing rule. Carolyn Mase wears by Tell the Truth. That's it for me. We're going to talk about self-talk tomorrow with Shad Helmsteader. I think it's his first time on the show. You're going to dig it. It's going to be six things you need to know about yourself talk. I'll see you then. Peace.