How To Become Your Own Best Friend & Love Being Alone

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Hello, my love.

Welcome to the Busy Yet Pretty Podcast.

I'm your host, Jaden Haley.

I'm so happy you're here with me today, because this topic is something that I am very passionate about,

and I love very much, which is how to become your own best friend, solo dates, and spending time alone.

This is something that I feel like we could all learn more tips on,

because sometimes we just want to be with someone a lot, or not be alone.

And that's okay. It's human nature for us to want to be with somebody,

but sometimes it's good to know how to be independent and enjoy being alone.

So, one, you don't have to rely on someone, and two,

so you can actually enjoy spending time with yourself,

because you have you and yourself, your entire life,

you are the only person in this world who's going to spend your day one with you

to the very end last day with you.

You are the longest you will ever spend your life with yourself,

so you want to enjoy it. You're the only person who will, so you have to enjoy it.

But before we get into today's episode, let's go into our weekly review.

So, this week, I have really just been locking into a motivated week,

and this is something that I've been needing, especially for spring around the corner.

I recorded an episode on this, but it was last week's episode,

but it's how to reinvent and rebrand your life.

And I feel like we all have that urge to do that,

and my urge came now.

So, I had that just like reset,

and I'm feeling so much more motivated, refreshed, organized.

It's actually crazy how much organization can just save your life and help you.

So, if you're feeling stuck or in a slump,

I really recommend you listening to last week's episode on that.

But anyways, another thing this week is,

I have just been shopping for some spring wardrobe pieces.

I had a little reset when it came to decluttering,

but I can't lie, the minute I declutter, I love to replenish what I just got rid of,

and it's more of like starting a new era.

And I try to lean into the minimalist mindset,

and I think I do that really well when it comes to kind of like the mental portion,

but when it comes to physical,

I really just do love a lot of things,

and it just makes me happy.

Like, I have a lot of mugs and dishes,

because I get so excited every morning to pick out what bowl am I going to put my breakfast in?

Or what mug am I going to put my watch in?

So, doing that makes me really happy,

which is why I feel like I always accidentally lean into the maxless mindset,

since I just enjoy a lot of beauty and things.

Another thing this week is,

I have been trying to just get in bed earlier.

When you were in bed earlier,

again, you're setting yourself up for success for the next day.

Your morning routine always begins with your night routine.

So, I was just trying to get in bed earlier,

and even enjoy like a few episodes of a show and stuff,

as long as I'm in bed and not out and about.

Sometimes I'm like,

I'm walking really late in stuff,

and I'm on the walking path,

and I'm like, you know,

I need to just decompress and wind down my body,

so that has been really helpful.

Now when it comes to the current obsessions of the week,

my current obsessions right now is citrus fruits.

I just love seasonal spring produce.

It is one of the best seasons of produce in my opinion,

but I have just been really leaning into citrus berries.

It just is so nice,

and then having like a few scoops of coconut yogurt on top.

Oh my gosh, that combo is literally perfection.

It's almost like berries in whip or like berries in whipped cream.

It's so divine.

Another current obsessions right now has been body scrubs

and body lotions.

I love fragrance,

and I try not to use it too much just for my health,

so I really use it sparingly,

but when I do use fragrance,

I really do enjoy it,

and I just haven't really enjoyed some body lotions

and body scrubs lately.

Picking out like a body lotion or a body scrub

to use in the morning or the evening,

whenever you do your shower,

just makes you excited to get in the shower.

It's almost like a little highlight.

And my last current obsessions right now

is matcha lattes with pistachio milk

and then adding vanilla collagen powder.

That combo is another perfection thing

that I have just been loving,

but I am back in my matcha era.

I really tried to lay off of it

when I was having kidney stones,

but I think we're doing better now,

so I'm just back on my matcha kick.

That said, I am being aware

and trying to have some coffee

to mix it up and have some balance.

Now for the goal of the week,

I usually just do a sculpt

in Matt Pilates classes or a former classes,

but I really want to try doing more yoga

and not just for the aesthetic of yoga,

because I really do love that yoga girl aesthetic

that people are trying to display right now,

but more importantly,

I'm loving it because

it just really makes me feel so calm

and at peace,

and I think it's a great way to have that

as like a spiritual thing

and a mind-body connection,

rather than thinking of it as a workout.

And it just helps you ground more

and take things slower.

Another goal that we grayed out for me

is cooking with new proteins.

I just love a good protein,

and I would say I eat it quite a bit,

so I want to learn how to make

new different proteins

and even different types of fish

or meats.

I kind of just stick to the same things.

I love a salmon,

I love a turkey,

I love a chicken,

I love tofu,

I love to try to venture out

and try new different proteins.

But with a sensitive stomach,

it's kind of hard,

so it's very much a trial and error process.

My IBS girls,

if you know you know,

another goal that we grayed out

is to declutter my phone apps.

There's nothing I love more

than having a clean, organized phone.

Sometimes it can get so overwhelming

when you just have a ton of clutter,

or apps, photos on your phone,

or messages,

so it's nice to do just a little refresh,

delete things,

and just clear it out

to have what you really need and want.

And now for the affirmation of the week.

I am stepping into the most successful spring,

I've had so far,

mentally, physically, and career-wise.

I love this so much,

and I know I'm very spring-coded,

I guess, even early on.

I feel like this is still winter right now,

but I feel like we're really leaning into spring,

and so are you guys.

So I just had to add that as the affirmation.

Okay, now for the self-love question,

what have I overcome

that I would have been scared of last year?

I love that question

to reflect on growth

and just how you handle things differently.

Now when it comes to the podcast review,

this review says,

I love this podcast so much,

it's amazing when you feel down or near pick me up.

I listen to it almost every morning

while making my breakfast,

and it helped me a lot in my day to day life.

Thank you so much for your review.

I love how you listen to it while you make your breakfast.

It just is like the perfect little morning routine,

but that makes me so happy to hear,

and if you want to be featured on next week's episode,

make sure to leave a podcast review

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and leave a rating over Spotify.

Without further ado,

it is time to get into today's episode.

This is how to become your own best friend,

solo date ideas,

and just love being alone,

and of course romanticizing your life.

Some people may think this is vague

to become your best friend,

or solo dates,

and all those topics

that I feel like have been talked about

subtly the past few years,

but let me remind you something.

Do you really love being alone?

Does spending time alone feel like a chore?

Do you not know what to do when you are alone?

And before we get into this,

let me just preface by saying,

there is nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with somebody.

That is beautiful.

That is a part of human nature,

and it is gorgeous to want to spend time with somebody.

That means you enjoy them,

or if you want to be hanging out with somebody,

or see somebody,

or love having a significant other,

whatever it is, or a best friend,

that's beautiful and amazing,

and you should be doing that.

Human connection and social connection is so important,

but also something just as important

is learning how to spend time with yourself.

So you can do both at the same time,

but knowing you are capable,

spend time alone in an extended amount of time.

It doesn't matter how long,

but knowing you can do that,

and you want to do that,

is something that is so beautiful and sacred,

and you really need to be practicing it

in order to get to that point.

You may be spending time with yourself on solo dates

or doing these things,

and think,

gosh, I hate spending time with myself still.

That is normal, and that is okay.

You aren't gonna love spending time with yourself overnight,

it takes practice, it takes courage,

and let me just say,

going out and having your own date

is not always the most easy thing,

being alone and having a picnic,

or going to a restaurant and saying for one.

Those things may feel intimidating,

but I promise you,

the more you do it, the easier it becomes.

But when it comes to being your own best friend,

let me remind you that

if you are uncomfortable being alone,

that is good,

because you have to be uncomfortable

in order to grow.

If you're always in your comfort zone,

you're never gonna grow,

you're never gonna evolve.

So, embrace it,

embrace being uncomfortable.

It's better to feel than to feel nothing at all.

And let me just say that again,

it is better to feel uncomfortable

than feel nothing at all.

Feeling and feeling emotion

and feeling uncomfortable,

sad, scared,

like that's being alive.

We want to feel those things,

because that reminds us,

oh, we're alive on this earth.

How beautiful is it that we get to experience these emotions?

Okay, now I've gotten a little deep,

but let's just go back to what I was saying,

but stop waiting on a text,

or stop waiting on the plans,

or noise,

or somebody to reach out

to finally feel like you're excited to do something.

Start doing it yourself,

and learn,

you don't need to wait for anybody else

in order to go on that trip you want to go on,

or go shopping.

Do anything.

Take yourself to that restaurant

that you've been wanting to try.

It's all in your hands.

You were just like somebody else.

When you ask your friend,

do you want to go to that new cafe

or that new bookstore?

And they say,

no, ask yourself.

Jaden, do you want to go to this bookstore

and this cafe

and have a little day out of it?

Yes, you do.

So don't wait on somebody else

in order to go do it.

Do it with yourself.

Also, another benefit of being your own best friend

and learning to love how to be alone

is you stop chasing the wrong people.

You stop feeling time

just to avoid assignments

and you start building a life

that you actually like.

When you're emotionally independent,

you're going to make better decisions

and relationships for your friends,

that you're significant other,

your family, everything.

You're going to make better decisions

and know,

do I really want to be doing this today?

Do I really want to be hanging out with this person?

Or am I just trying to fill my time?

Or do I feel like I just need to be hanging out with them?

You're going to be less reactive to loneliness,

so you're not going to start feeling lonely as often.

You may be alone, but not lonely.

And lastly, you're not going to tolerate things

just to avoid being by yourself.

A lot of times that we put down our boundaries

and put down our standards

to have that company to avoid us being alone and feeling lonely.

So you would be choosing people for fulfillment

and actually because you enjoy being with them

and not from emptiness.

There is nothing more powerful than knowing

that you are capable of being alone with yourself.

Also, there is nothing to be ashamed about

if you do feel disconnected

when you're alone or you're craving validation

or you feel just unwanted.

There is nothing wrong with that.

And that's the most normal feeling to feel.

When someone's not texting us or not calling us

or not making plans with us,

it's human nature for us to automatically feel sad

and not wanted.

And we're like, why are we not hanging out

or why are you not making plans?

It is so normal and it's okay if you feel lonely.

But that's why these things

are going to just help you feel more peaceful, spacious,

and grounded,

and knowing that you're capable of being alone.

So let's talk about how to become your own best friend.

So first up, which is one of the most important things

and I always say this, everything stems from your mindset.

It really does.

So you have to talk to yourself like someone you would respect.

If you are looking at yourself in the mirror

and thinking, gosh, I'm so ugly, gosh, I hate myself,

or you're constantly being so hard on yourself,

being so negative towards yourself,

would you say that to your best friend?

No.

So if you're trying to become your own best friend,

you can't be rude and negative

and so disheartening to your best friend.

Because I know someone you love

or one of your best friends, your significant other,

whatever it is,

you're going to be talking to them like you love them

and with love and care and respect.

So why are you disrespecting yourself?

Even if you're just thinking it to yourself, stop.

Rewire your thoughts and start talking to yourself

the way you would to your best friend.

This is something that I think is one of the most important things

which we briefly touched on,

but start doing things without waiting for someone.

This is where solo hobbies and solo dates come in,

but you have to start doing things

that you actually want without waiting for the company.

Be your own company.

You are more than enough.

It's going to feel uncomfortable at first

and like you're lost and confused

and how does this work?

But I promise you it'll soon become peaceful

and it'll become so easy that you don't even think about it.

You're going to think, oh, I'm just going to go

take myself to a coffee shop and read a book right now.

I'm going to go to the new restaurant that I've been wanting to try

and take myself to dinner.

These things that seem so imaginable

and hard right now for solo dates

and doing things alone become so easy

after you continuously do it

and put yourself in this position

where you're not the most comfortable.

And if you're worried about what the people around you are thinking,

let me just tell you,

nobody's thinking about you being alone.

Do you understand, even if you go eat at a restaurant alone,

nobody's thinking, oh, look at that pork girl alone at the restaurant.

Oh, why is that girl alone at the restaurant?

Nobody's thinking that.

They are in their own heads and thinking about their own problems,

their own life, their own plans for the rest of the day.

So don't think so much about what other people are thinking about.

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it's while we're having this rebrand

and reinventing our life.

And maybe for you,

reinventing and rebranding your life

may be starting a business.

And I know you have an idea that's deep in your brain

that you have been wanting to start a business with

or maybe you already have a business

and you're just trying to get it up and running better,

trying to get more of an audience

and just trying to manage your business better.

Because let's be honest,

it can be definitely hard to manage a business on your own,

especially if you don't have the tools.

And that is why I love Shopify.

Shopify is the commerce platform

behind millions of businesses around the world

in 10% of all of e-commerce in the US,

from household names like Mattel,

to Jim Shark,

so brands just getting started.

I also love how they have tools for marketing

because it is so important to get your business out there

and they have so many templates to build your online store.

It's honestly beautiful how easy it is

to start and run a business

than it was years ago.

It used to be so hard

and now it's so easy with Shopify

because there's so many tools

on their platform that can help you.

They can help you at any stage of your business.

It's time to turn those what ifs into

with Shopify today.

Sign up for your $1 per month trial today

at Shopify.com slash busy at pretty.

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you should be taking your business

to the next level or starting your business,

it's while we're having this rebrand

and the reinventing our life.

First spring, one of my favorite things has been my nails.

And one of my nails are done

because sometimes I just don't have time to go

to the nail salon to do my nails.

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Now let's talk a little about the aesthetic side

of being alone and doing things fun with yourself.

Because like I always say,

for me to do things that challenge me,

I always have to tie something aesthetic to it.

It just makes me enjoy it more and inspired.

Like when I wanna achieve something,

let's say I have to really do and buckle down

on a full clean in my room,

I will go and put on YouTube videos of Rose Cleaning,

or I'll go on Pinterest and look at clean room and Spowe.

Those things, I'm surrounding my environment

of what I consume for things that I wanna reflect

into my own life.

So you have to realize you have to start consuming

what you want your environment and lifestyle to look like.

So maybe start looking on Pinterest more

instead of scrolling on Instagram or TikTok

or only following people on Instagram and TikTok

that actually feel that motivation

and keep you inspired.

Maybe start replacing some music with podcasts.

Just surrounding yourself and the environment

that you wanna have in your life

is one of the best things to do for motivation and inspiration.

And I'm telling you that's gonna really help your journey

of learning how to become your best friend

when you watch videos of girls doing solo dates.

I even started doing like a solo date series

on my TikTok and Instagram of me doing solo dates.

And I talk about a lot of those ideas on the podcasts already.

But sometimes seeing other people do it,

it's gonna be easier for you to start doing it.

Okay, back to what I was saying about the set aside of being alone.

Some examples of things that you can start

by doing things alone, which aren't even solo dates.

These are just enjoying how to take things slow

and enjoy things that you do with yourself.

So it's not even going out having a picnic

or going to a restaurant, going to the movies.

These are just everyday things that you can do from home.

So in the morning, something you could do for yourself

is have a set routine.

That could be having your match out or your coffee

and then journaling while drinking it,

opening your windows, stretching outside,

getting that morning sunlight, make a pretty breakfast bowl,

maybe some oatmeal or some Greek yogurt,

and then go on a little walk.

I find having a set routine for yourself

can be one of the best ways to begin introing

at solo dates to yourself because you're spending time alone

but it's from home and just doing things where it's like,

okay, you know, this is for myself.

I'm doing this because I enjoy it for me.

Now when it comes to a little evening time with yourself,

maybe you do your shower and you do your body care,

find your body scrub or your lotion

that you love and look forward to using

and that can be like a little highlight.

And then maybe you want to light a candle,

you can maybe brew some tea.

Even just like picking out the tea you're going to have

that evening can feel so special.

And of course, we love a little dessert bowl,

so maybe you want a sweet and little savory bowl

and then something that you could do,

it just get like one of those little bedside tables

or a little like bed tray.

And lay it all out, your tea and your dessert and your book.

And it just is so nice and calming.

You could do some journaling, some needle pointing,

something that I have been loving to do right now

is water coloring.

It is so fun.

It's like painting but it's like the little water colors

and that can be a little fun thing that you look forward to doing.

Again, these are like little practice things

that you can do that are intentional

and that really just help you set yourself up for

enjoying time with yourself.

Now if you're someone who has been doing this for a while

and already kind of like are familiar

or comfortable with solo dates.

So starting off with outdoor ones

because I've been really loving just being outdoors,

especially for spring, this is perfect for springtime.

Go to the farmer's market.

Farmers markets, I'm sure there's one in your area

and just walking around the farmer's market.

It is the most comfortable thing to do

as like a first solo date

because nobody's looking at you.

You feel like you just won, Den,

and it actually makes you have a little activity.

Okay, what am I going to make for dinner?

What am I going to make for lunch?

And you can gather this produce

and it just is a really nice thing to do.

Another thing is go on a walk.

So you can go on a walk or a hike

and if you're going to hike alone, be cautious, of course.

But go on a walk, have a podcast

and maybe a matcha in hand or walk by the beach.

Another thing you can do is have a picnic in the park.

So maybe bring your book or bring some music,

do something where it just plans a little date for yourself.

Another thing you could do is do some outdoor yoga.

You can literally just go in your backyard

or the front yard outside anywhere,

lay out your yoga mat and just sit with yourself,

do some stretching, do some yoga,

and it's so grounding

and also just being away from your phone

and not scrolling or feeling tied down to something

feels so refreshing and nice.

I honestly feel like it just clears my head so much

or when you eat your meals, okay, sorry.

This is actually separate then solo dates.

But when you eat your meals,

stop going on your phone or watching TV.

Of course, it's fine sometimes if you want to just eat in bed

and I love like a dessert in bed and I love doing that.

But sometimes when we are just always eating

with our phone in front of us

or watching TV or entertainment,

it can kind of feel like we're not even knowing

what we're eating or we're rushing or we're not thinking.

So it's nice to just be present with yourself

and be with your food, be with yourself

and enjoy it as is.

Let that be activity alone

and then let almost everything be in activity independently.

So eat your food and then go after watch your TV

or watch your movie.

So everything doesn't blend into one.

That also is great if you feel like you have very repetitive,

broken record days like you're having the same thing,

you wake up, you go to work,

you eat dinner and you go to bed.

Having things kind of separated if you can

so when you get home, don't go on your phone

and have things playing all the time

while you're doing your workout or eating your food.

Try to have things separate.

So it makes you feel like you got the most out of your day.

Now when it comes to the creative aspect of soludate,

it's something that you can do which I love is pottery class.

Or you can do a painting pottery class.

There's a lot of like painting ceramic spots

and I'm sure there's one in your area.

Another thing you could do is go on a color walk.

So when you're on your color walk,

you can kind of pick colors out and think,

okay, I'm going to look for the color yellow.

Find everything that looks yellow.

It just helps you be mindful and to find a little game

that you can play with yourself.

Another thing is journaling at a cafe.

And maybe you can even challenge yourself

when you go to the cafe is journal with no music,

no headphones, and just be present with yourself.

Something else you can do is go to the thrift store.

I feel like thrift stores are so fine

because they're so entertaining with all different things.

And let's be real.

It's a much better prices than retail therapy

from shopping online or shopping at stores.

When it comes to relaxing things

you can do independently with yourself.

You can have a spa day at home

or you can go to get your nails done

or have a spa massage date with yourself somewhere.

But it's nice to do it at home as well.

So you can do a little spa day

and get like some cute little flower petals

and put them in like a little foot soak bath.

You can put some like Greek yogurt cucumbers.

Do the whole thing for yourself

to just make you feel very Pinterest-esque and enjoyable.

Like literally plant a spa day at home for yourself.

Make your cucumber water, make your lemon water,

and just it makes you so relaxed.

And it just is a fun little thing to do.

You know your younger self would be thriving if you do that.

Another thing is have a bath and a book.

Put some pretty floating flowers in your bath

or add some coconut milk in your bath.

Something to soak in and then get your book.

Have a candle lit and like a nice fragrance going.

Something just to get you really relaxed in the bath

and that can be such a nice thing to do independently with yourself.

And with that maybe try a new tea.

It's so nice when you have like a new set tea

or something you can have after dinner

that just is so relaxing.

Start doing daily stretches.

So maybe you work from home or maybe you work somewhere

whenever you get a break or a moment when you can.

Go outside in the sunlight or outside whatever weather it is.

And just start stretching and take the time away from your phone.

Get some fresh air.

And that can be one of the perfect fuel to just get your day going again.

I honestly feel like sometimes the perfect energy drink

is a green juice and going outside and just getting fresh air.

Another thing is cooking a new recipe.

I said I wanted to start doing more recipes

and trying out new like proteins start cooking with.

So maybe pick a maybe buy yourself a new recipe book

and treat yourself and find a recipe that you want to try doing.

That's another really fun thing that you can do with yourself.

Okay, this is one of my favorite things to do when it comes to errands.

So we all have errands and chores we have to do during the week.

But these are the perfect ways to romanticize them

where it makes it like something exciting to do with yourself.

When you go grocery shopping, put on a podcast or put on some music.

So don't forget to bring your headphones

and maybe have a matcha or a coffee with you.

It just makes it so much more enjoyable.

Next is if you get yourself weekly flowers,

maybe go find different flowers.

It can be from outside or if you go shopping for them.

Get the flowers and make yourself a little flower bunch.

So make it like a bouquet and make it exactly how you like it.

Bunch them together.

You can get actually like a treat or Joe's back

or any like paper grocery bag and tie it together

to make it literally like a bouquet for yourself.

Now when it comes to organizing your space,

again, get your matcha put on a podcast, light a candle.

But also prior to doing that, look on Pinterest

and try to find what you want your room to look like

so it's going to inspire you to clean your room.

And then put on like a YouTube video

or someone cleaning the room.

So it just makes you feel like excited to do it

rather than feeling like a chore.

Same thing when it comes to your car.

Look at pretty cars and like how put together they are in organized

and that's going to inspire you for ideas for your car.

That's why there are no excuses

into learning how to romanticize your life

and to loving alone because we can even turn our chores

and errands that we have to do

and to fun events with ourselves.

You don't have to be going to a five star restaurant

and spending hundreds of dollars on new clothes

in order to have a fun date with yourself.

It can literally be your chores

that you have to do in between school and work

or it can be the things you have to do at home.

Even when you do your homework,

putting on a podcast,

putting a lighting a candle,

or having a nice body lotion on,

making whatever event or chore

or thing you have to do an enjoyable time.

So think to yourself,

if you had a whole day alone,

would you enjoy it?

And if the answer is no,

think about what is missing.

Is it a hobby?

Is it a routine?

Your environment?

Having movement?

Creative outlets?

What is it that you need to add to your routine

and to your life to start enjoying being alone?

Your life should be something you enjoy participating in.

This is one of my favorite things that I've heard before

but think of your life as a portfolio.

Instead of everything being around relationships,

productivity and work,

you also want to have in your life hobbies,

creativity, movement, slow time,

and having quiet moments,

and learning, exploring,

and having lessons.

Having a well-rounded life

and having balance is so much more beautiful

and a well-fifilling life

than just having work, relationships,

and productivity.

So remember,

when you start doing things alone and independently,

it may feel awkward at first,

you may reach for your phone

or you may text a friend,

but you have to remember,

if you feel uncomfortable,

that's good because it means you're growing.

Being alone is not a punishment,

it's a freedom.

And it's a way that we can be capable

of loving our life independently.

Another great quote you can remember is,

if you can become your own best friend,

you carry a sense of home with you wherever you go.

And that is something that nobody can take away from you.

Remember, you were the only person

who's going to spend day one

and the last day of your life with.

So there's no better time than now

to become your own best friend.

I love you so much

and I hope you enjoyed this episode

as much as I did recording it.

It just made me feel so inspired.

And now after this,

I'm going to go take myself

on a little self-care day

because we are our own best friends.

So please feel free to tag me

in your TikTok,

your Instagram stories,

your Instagram posts,

whatever it is,

feel free to tag me

of you listening to the podcast

or how you take yourself on a solo date.

I would absolutely love to see it and repost.

And I hope you have the best day.

I'm so grateful for you

and every day is a chance to come

with your own best friend

and do not forget to stay

a busy yet pretty.

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