IQ TEST - Episode 238

0:00There's an unspoken phenomenon, maybe not too unspoken. No, it's just not talking about enough. And it's when you get into... We take people too seriously, including ourselves. So this is more a message where I'm not teaching, I'm not coaching. I'm actually speaking to myself, which I really do in these instances. So it'll be nice to see what I've learned from this and what you can lead from it as well. Because I'm not perfect at it. And here we are where I take people seriously at their word. And the deep layers of meaning beyond their words. And I typically... especially if I don't know the person, I typically talk with them at that level. The only time I don't do this is when I'm with bitches.

1:04So that's the pimp in me. But I realize that with their playful creatures, we should speak playfully with them. However, in the modern age, oh man, I'm learning a lot already. See, I didn't know where this was going to go, but I'm noticing that most men are bitches. And I should talk to them as such. However, coming from that child, the perspective where it's like, all right, respect what a man has to say, hear them out, engage them at that level, and build from there. If I practice that, nine times at a ten, it won't get me a mutually beneficial result. Won't even lead to a positive experience because for whatever reason, well, the obvious reasons, plus some not so obvious, men don't speak the way that we used to. So if I practice the old ways in a new context, I'm not going to get too far. But the new context demands play now more than ever.

2:06That's what we're talking about here. It's not a gender topic. It's playfulness is not the common thread. It's not the common way that we connect with one another. And because of that, we get into these strange conversations that feel confrontational, but it's because we're not relaxed and we're not playing through the conversations. Because you learn more through action. Talking isn't active, but play is. Play forces you to think critically. Play forces you to think creatively. Play forces you to relax into your body at that younger state. That's seven-year-old. That inner child people often talk about. And when you're in that state, everything is action. But as we get older, we fall into the trap of intellectualizing everything to a point where we actually become costed. That's where true toxicity begins. You ever watch these podcasts? Of course you have.

3:06Or listen to these interviews where people are talking about the psychology of how to approach one thing or another. You could even say, my show for instance. However, I'd like to think that with my show, we're trying to aim you towards action. But in those conversations, they're breaking it down. The science, the idea, the strategies of thinking that aren't very playful. Which means they're not that repeatable. Which means if you're learning it, you're going to feel more frustrated. Even if it does work, you're going to be frustrated as you adapt to it. That in of itself is an IQ test where you get your information from determines how well you get to execute on it. That quality feedback loop is intense. But that's what I'm thinking about as play. So I talk with a girl. I don't give her those straight answers that she's expected. I give her playful answers.

4:07I give her a little bit of mystery. Give her a little bit of seduction. Give her a little bit of hearing an idiot. But I'm not going to judge you for it at least not negatively. And that's what I mean by play. Because a lot of people talk about teasing. And when they describe it, it's really just something cost it. It's not myself. If the person feels bad about themselves after the interaction, that's not playful. So we'll use that as a curiosity. So as it relates to these men that I'm bumping into, I'm having these conversations. And I think that we're all at the table. So we earn the right to be at that table. We know the vocabulary. We know the bigger picture context. And some of these people I invited to the table thinking that they were at that level. Clearly on this judge. However, everyone does serve a purpose. It's just where do I take them once they've played their role? So that's on me in a lot of ways.

5:08But how can we talk about things playfully? Most things people say aren't things that they're familiar with aren't things that are part of their background. They're coming from that college mentality where it's like, oh, let's talk about an idea. Your opinion matters about this idea. But their opinion doesn't matter in the real world. Because if you have no experience, everything is fluff that you have to offer. It isn't until you're in the trenches and you know what war is like. That you can tell me what it's like to be in war. Whether it's a good thing or a bad thing, a necessary thing. And how war plays out in all different contexts. Now that you've tasted the real version, you understand the allegorical versions that exist. As a part of just humanity, being humanity. So it's the same with every topic. War is just about one example. And it's something that I'm reminded of right now because I'm...

6:08Because I'm not the best set. Someone says something stupid and naturally I go into education. I don't do this with women, so I think I got to start treating them like women. Which is the gayest thing that I've ever said. Again, let's say it seriously. It scares the hell out of me. That's kind of concerning. Average crew. Until someone is adept enough to challenge themselves to know, all right, what a topic truly entails, to correct themselves in conversation and not be corrected by those around them. They're not from that sort of shut up and listen, so you can learn generation. Then I should treat them with play and only play until they're adept enough to get to that level. And it's not to treat them like a woman, but it is to treat them where they're mentally aged.

7:10Oh man, this is interesting. Because now I'm just... All these recent scenarios have probably been my half of a good man and woman. So I'm not treating everybody like a woman, I'm treating everyone like a child. Until they proved me otherwise. And until they can be willing to learn. Ooh, yes. Yeah, that's very useful. So the practice, that will be the tough part. It's one of course knowing this and catching myself as I do it. And then two, being in a playful mood in the first place. It's hard to act out playfulness when you're not feeling playful. So that means a few things. That means me managing myself, my health, my fitness, eating well, sleeping well, fucking well. It means being in spaces that naturally inspire me to be playful, usually outside of nature. It's summertime, so that's easy enough.

8:10But even the fall and the winter, there are those playful outdoor experiences I could be having. And perhaps I just don't have a lot of that because I'm spending more time working on various projects. And the work is exciting to me, the work is play. And especially with most of the people that I get to work with. However, I am taken out of that zone when I'm interacting with people that aren't at those executive levels with me. I really enjoy having this podcast. So this is what I'm thinking about. There are two things I'm going to, this is the one thing that I'm going to be working on. And those are the two ways I'm going to help out with it. The third way would be to seek out naturally playful people that can categorize them. Because I'd rather hang out with someone who's playful regardless of their mental age than not. If they don't do so much with someone who's pakes themselves so seriously, takes life so seriously,

9:10that they forget that it's all just show. It's all just performance, a simulation, a game. Yeah. I think I got the way forward. So there we are. I guess money factors in as another component. When you take care of your baseline needs, you're able to be more playful. So making more money definitely helps with playfulness. Now that I think about it, the people that tend to be more playful around me are the ones that either are financially stable or mentally secure enough that they act as if they're financially stable, which is the way that I was raised. We didn't have money, but we didn't live poor because we didn't think poor. We were playful. Okay, that's the IQ test for today. That's it and win.