Paying the bill: Do you pay it in full if you send out invites? | Deon G

Ah, the age-old question that's caused countless awkward fumbles at restaurant tables: who picks up the tab?

Traditionally, the etiquette dictated that the inviter pays, but times (and wallets) are changing. So, should this custom stay or should it go?

An invitation can be seen as an extension of hospitality, like inviting someone to your home. Picking up the bill shows you value their company and want to treat them.

If you extend a specific invitation to a fancy restaurant, it implies you're prepared to cover the cost. This can be a nice way to celebrate a special occasion.

Remember that not everyone has the same budget and if everyone pays their fair share, you can avoid financial strain or awkwardness. In 2024, traditional roles are evolving. Splitting the bill reflects a more egalitarian approach to dining out with friends or colleagues.

Miss Manners, known as the 'Queen of Etiquette' herself, offered a different perspective in her column.

Miss Manners makes a valid point. Extending an invitation with the implicit expectation of others paying is not ideal. It's better to be upfront and realistic about your budget.

Remember, the true goal is to celebrate your achievement and bond. Your enthusiasm and genuine appreciation for their support will shine through, regardless of the setting. ECR site