Throwback Thursday: How to Be More YOU and Less BOTHERED While Growing a Major Online Business & Brand

0:00Hi, in this episode we are keeping up with the theme of All in July and today we are discussing one of the most important concepts that we all need to be hyper aware of if we are serious about playing big and doing big things in our lives and in our businesses especially especially especially if we are doing this on the internet and that is the concept of being overly bothered by one other people's opinions of us or two other people's actions or other people's success or literally anything if we're overly concerned overly bothered it's a problem and if you do not know how to wisely navigate either situation they each do come with their fair share of negative consequences and more importantly you miss out on some major opportunities at the exact same time and we don't have time for that so this is going to be a high level

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2:02and you're wanting to do it in a very effective way and in a very cost effective way please check out all in that is exactly why I designed it the way that I did. Okay so the concept of being bothered this is so important okay it's so important mainly because I mean there's there we could go on and on on the reasons why this is not the vibe but the biggie here is the waste of time and energy again whether either either however you look at this whether it's you being bothered by somebody else it's a waste of time and energy or you are overly concerned with bothering somebody else and you're stressed about that also a waste of time and energy obviously we'll discuss why but first let's talk about what I mean by when I say bothered what does that

3:04mean because you'll hear people throw it around like don't be bothered whatever to me bothered is a less serious form of triggered okay so what a trigger is it's a psychological term or a mental health term that refers to something that affects your emotional state often significantly by causing extreme overwhelm or distress a trigger affects your ability to remain present in the moment and it may bring up specific thought patterns or influence your behavior so that's a serious term we probably all throw around the word triggered too much I know I do but what I really mean when I say triggered I mean and I mean I'm sure some people actually do get triggered out there and that's that's different right if you are actually being triggered by somebody's behavior then that is something that you would want to actually speak with a professional about a mental health

4:06professional and why that is you know whether it's related to PTSD past trauma anything but I think of the this I'm sure there's a spectrum of of actual triggers and and being triggered so being bothered would be more on the less serious side of the spectrum however it still does carry its own fair share of serious consequences so when I say bothered what I mean is you are being affected right you're seeing something online let's say you're being bothered by somebody else like some you see something online that affects you right so it stops you in your tracks it takes you out of being present and it affects your emotional state and sometimes your behavior right you could go from being in a great mood or feeling super confident or focus on what

5:14whatever the task is at hand and then you see something or somebody and it totally throws you off right this is where our waste of time and focus and energy comes to play because now instead of doing what you came on the internet to do now you're focused on somebody else who is completely and totally unaffected by you but now your focus is on them instead of you and your own life and and business it's so important to discuss because and and let's talk about which one do I want to talk about first let's talk about you getting overly bothered first okay because it's so easy to be like I'm unbothered you know I'm unbothered by you by whatever you know I'm unbothered I'm un phased by you know somebody's opinion of me or whatever but at the same time not being aware of how bothered you're getting or how actually quite literally bothered you being versus not being

6:21unbothered at all right and it all comes back to a level of awareness of of your focus and of your emotional state as you're on the internet as you are communicating with peers or you know whatever the situation is this can come up at any time so let's talk about this from the angle of you getting overly bothered by somebody else okay so again here's what this typically looks like you go on let's say Instagram you're either you know just kind of mindlessly going for a scroll or you are going to do something and somebody pops up and they do something that affects you in some way in this sense it's affecting you in a negative way you see it something about it is bothering you and instead of just keeping on scrolling and keeping it moving or you know again going back to the task at hand you get it affects your emotional state and then it potentially affects

7:27the action that you take next so what I already don't love about this right out the gate is how influenced we're being by the situation this is us being like a bag in the wind right like that when people are so easily influenced it's literally like they're this bag flowing in the wind and depending on what they scroll pass on the internet or what somebody says to them or a song that they hear on the radio or the mood of their kids or whatever they're just flowing up and down up and down you know left and right depending on what comes across their path they don't have a level of self discipline to number one be aware that they're being bothered and that they're potentially going to be thrown off track but number two to stop that from actually happening and a level of self I don't know there I think self discipline is definitely the term

8:33the best term to use here so when this happens there's there's a lot of opportunities or there's a lot of negative consequences that happen when we let this affect us at this level when we let ourselves get overly bothered by somebody else like I said right out the gate number one we're wasting our time right we're being this bag in the wind we came for a task even if it's just to to relax and ease our mind for a little bit and we're letting somebody else living their life throw us off and now we're focused on somebody else so it's a waste of time this often can lead to negative comparison right you're bothered by something maybe you you they they created some piece of content or they're celebrating a really big win and instead of feeling happy for them or saying like oh that's so interesting they're take on that or the way that they did that or

9:35how they navigated that situation you instead are internalizing it and you're saying well what I'm doing isn't as good or what I'm doing is like right you're taking your your business results whatever it is that you're comparing and comparing it against whatever it is that you saw in a negative way another negative thing that comes up a lot when we're getting overly bothered is obviously judgment right when we see somebody doing something that we wouldn't do or we maybe would do differently instead of saying okay that's that's an interesting approach to the situation and keep it moving we instead stop and we judge which is also a waste of time and also not our jobs this also runs the risk of us potentially acting out of integrity how many times have you seen something online and maybe subdomated comment on it

10:40that later on you weren't proud of or sent a DM or maybe sent something to a friend and it was a little bit of a mean girl vibe but it again it affected your state but also it affected your behavior in a way that isn't an alignment with who you would consider yourself and then you also when you're allowing yourself to be overly bothered by other people you're missing a really really big opportunity here and we're going to talk more about this but you're missing an opportunity to ask yourself some really powerful questions that could lead you down a path that is so much more productive for you and also very illuminating in terms of okay why am I being bothered what wait a second let's this isn't about them this is actually about me

11:43and when you can go down that path and ask yourself these questions not only can it lead you down to what you've never been before and you could actually create something brand new or it could lead you to a discovery or something trajectory changing in your business but but again a new layer of supple awareness that takes your empathy even deeper and and just makes you more of a badass so we'll go more into that one just a second and then you bothering people or your fear of bothering people this is a really really big one and what I mean by this is you being your full-ass self being fully in your truth unabashedly unashamed unapologetic online that means that you're

12:45letting your flavor out right we've had this conversation I often compare like who each of us individually are two ice cream flavors we all have a flavor what we're worried about being well we're worried about bothering people too much we end up making ourselves vanilla which really doesn't bother anybody at all but it also doesn't excite anybody very much either right like who who I mean vanilla is great but it's there's no super fans of vanilla but again there's also no people that get overly bothered by vanilla people just simply don't care so you're essentially you know another way to say this is you're watering yourself down you're becoming this little koi brand which we talked about in the last episode and it's lame it lacks flavor it lacks pizzazz and it lacks you actually that's exactly what it lacks it lacks you so it's not even

13:51announces good so anyway when when we fear being all of who we are we start to water ourselves down obviously this is a major major major waste of time this is us being affected by fear of other people's perceptions of us which has nothing to even do with us at all not to mention we cannot control it all we cannot we can we can show up in a certain way and we can position our brands and our messaging to lend to perceptions but we cannot control other people's perceptions they're filtering it all through their own life experience and their own stuff so again total waste of time this leads to us watering ourselves down playing small maybe even some self judgment and also it leads to us then kind of contorting and trying to align ourselves to an audience that isn't our

14:55audience right when we are trying to appease people that aren't our people everybody is not for everybody one person is not for everybody I don't care who you are you know what I'm gonna say next Jesus Christ himself even had haters okay so if you are appealing to everybody you're 100% watering yourself down but if you are contorting yourself and changing your behavior and your messaging or whatever it is to appeal to people that are being bothered by you then you are shifting your behavior for the wrong audience you're now performing like a circus monkey for people that want to go to a circus versus where you actually want to be your own show your own thing so all of these things obviously all of it can be summed up with a waste of time and a waste of energy

16:00so I want to tell you these two quotes that I came across I've heard them before but I came across them again when I was doing research for it factor which was my last master class and this when it comes to being overly bothered on the internet or being fearful or overly concerned with bothering people on the internet these quotes are going to change your life and they are this first one the bird and the cage hates birds that fly the bird and the cage hates birds that fly okay and then the second one is it's very similar and I would assume this quote is actually where the the one I just said came from but because I looked it up and there's no there's somebody that actually there's no credit for that quote but then there's the official quote which is birds born in the cage think

17:00flying is an illness and that was said by Alejandro Jordorowski he was a French filmmaker how good is that birds born in a cage think flying is an illness hmm birds born in a cage think thinks doing the thing that they were literally put on the planet to do is an illness and I believe people who are overly bothered on the internet this this is a big big piece of it we can apply these two quotes to to that that's often I would say nine times out of 10 what's happening when somebody is overly bothered by somebody on the internet not every not every time maybe not nine times out of 10 seven times out of 10 I would bet it's because they have put

18:04themselves in a cage okay if you are an adult you have the ability to get yourself out of the cage at that point out of the mental cage you you can figure it out we all have in our own way but you have put yourself or maybe you've been conditioned in a cage maybe grew up in the cage that's fine we we all have we've all come from our own respective cages but there comes a point in time where you get to look around and you get to say wait is everybody around me sick or am I in a cage not letting myself be free and I'm making freedom look bad right or whatever whatever the situation is that's usually what is happening in this instant when somebody is being overly bothered by you doing you it is because they are in their own cage

19:11and they haven't figured out that they have the key in the same cage and they could easily just unlock it and fly whether that be fly in their own direction in the opposite direction that's an option or fly in their own right but because they haven't figured that out yet that perspective in the cage is often this very very small limited perception and it can lead to a lot of really ugly behavior because you're in a cage and it's not fun being in a cage we want to as women who are growing big businesses and brands on the internet and I mean big in your own right whatever that means to you but as women who are really going for it that means that you have to allow yourself to be free you have to allow yourself to tap into your own unique magic and own up to number one what it is that you actually want and number two how you want to go

20:17about getting it and number three who you are going to be in that process in the building process who you want to be get to be and should be if you are wanting to be a match for the thing that you want okay so how you are going to attract in the results and the clients and everything that you want to achieve and experience as an entrepreneur and as the woman who is creating your life by design what is a match for that who is a match for that what is the version of you that's going to make that happen so on that same note when it comes to anything whether we're talking about being bothered on the internet having a fear of being bothered on the internet or anything else we want to train ourselves and uphold a standard to handle these situations like the boss that we are

21:28okay we need to have a standard for our life for our business for ourselves that we uphold and we want to get clear on what this standard is before ideally before you get bothered by something ideally before you do anything else like what what is your standard because it's really easy to show up like a boss and to show up as you have another way to say this is like the higher version of yourself when things are easy when you are winning at life in business and things are going your way it's really easy to be a decent human and to be kind and to be high vibe and to be generous and to be empathetic and all the things that that we all I think we would agree we want we want to be described as and synonymous with but when things happen and things aren't going

22:30so well that's or when we're being bothered or we're you know we bother somebody else that is when we feel tempted to self-sabotage a little bit or to maybe be a mismatch for our standards when we're feeling good and we don't want to do that okay the more that you are at the frequency of your higher self your highest business self your your you know the inner boss however you want to think about it the more you're going to attract in those level experiences and results in in your life not to mention the less energy you're wasting the more focused you're going to be on your own work on your own arts and more the more people you're going to bother which isn't a bad thing so let's talk talk about how to handle both of these situations like the boss that you are how

23:32we're going to navigate if you feel bothered by somebody else and then how to navigate when you are the one who's doing the bothering okay I'm going to give you I'm going to give you a framework for both of these that is going to change your business and life so when you are being bothered by somebody on the internet okay right you're scrolling you see something it's affecting your mental state it's taking you out of being present and it's potentially going to affect your actions moving forward we are going to do four things okay four steps number one the very first thing we're going to do is we are waiting to react do not react quickly and this is coming from one of the most compulsive is it compulsive or impulsive doesn't matter you get what I'm saying like

24:32I I am a hothead I am trigger happy I am okay historically this person who do did not take this advice like I cannot tell you how many times I have reacted or overly reacted instantly because it felt good because I felt like a little badass doing it because I hadn't said a standard or I wasn't upholding myself to a standard and then later on went on and regretted because we all know right like we all know this every situation is different in the moment and then 10 minutes later and then an hour later right like if you've ever been in a fight with your partner you know this you know this this is why I don't agree with this sentiment don't go to bed mad I fully disagree on this 100% because if I'm angry with Chris right before bed that is the

25:40angriest and I am in the moment right like that I am the angriest the closer to the situation and then time heals all right so if I can just go to bed like if there's no resolving or if it's going to be made worse by us having a conversation about it which sometimes that's okay sometimes it's not if I sleep on it I'm not going to be as angry in the morning and this is the same type of situation okay time heals all including our hot ass heads okay so when you are feeling bothered by something and your little thumbs start itching because they want to dance across keyboard and oh my there are literally fireworks going off by me if you're watching the video on YouTube why because I was doing the thumb thing what is it I don't know what's happening okay anyway you start to get the itch to say some some firey ass shit on the internet wait wait I'm not saying you can't say the thing

26:51okay because maybe something does need to be said but you don't need to say it right then this person is not going to know when you saw this this situation okay so they're not going to know and their audience isn't going to know or whatever you're performing for in the moment it's not going to know whether you saw it then or an hour later so just wait put your phone down walk away from the phone tie your hands behind your back I don't care what you need to do take a CBD gummy I don't care put the phone down wait just wait you can say it later but don't say it don't be reactive no man bosses queens do not they're not reactive they lead and there's a difference okay okay so we're going to wait to react now the next thing

27:56we're going to do when we when we simmer the hell down if you're angry if this is like an anger situation but the next thing we want to do the second step here is we're going to get curious we're going to get curious because we are evolving we are women who value wisdom and we are women who value above many other things our own relationship with our self and our own level of self awareness self awareness is your key to freedom in so many different ways so we're going to get curious we are going to ask ourselves the question that very few people ask when they are being overly bothered by something which is why is this bothering me hold up why is this bothering me let me just let me take it use out of the surface okay because there may be

28:57like a surface answer like well this person's wrong or this person is the way that they're thinking about this is bad or their action or their you know their whatever but take a deeper than okay and why is this bothering me what's the deal that's going to give you an answer and you can do with that what you will but then okay the third step here is we are going to ask ourselves two questions okay oh my god this is actually a joke this I am so sorry I know if you're listening to audio I keep getting distracted but when I tell you like my video it's fireworks it's balloons it's likes it's insane I this has got to be stopped it's so stupid whoever came up with these stupid reactions on video is stupid see now I'm reacting this is not my higher self I need

30:00to I need to simmer down okay so we're going to ask ourselves two very important questions the first question that we're going to ask ourselves is can I do this differently should I do this differently would I do this differently and if so how this is it factor level this is this is entrepreneurship this is innovation this is an innovative this is the question that leads to the opportunities okay that bothers me I don't love that that's interesting that's an interesting approach I wouldn't do it that way oh oh you wouldn't okay miss ma'am how would you do it then okay don't talk about it be about it how would you do that differently and should you is that something you should take on is that something you should give a different

31:08perspective give a different approach take a different approach to if the answer is yes well it's a damn good thing that you just got bothered today isn't it that actually like you just turned me a pile what seemingly shit into gold congratulations and if it's not you're calling to do something different about it then stay in your lane move on we're wasting time so the first question is can I do a different leash should I do it differently and then you go down that path and then the second question this is a really juicy one is she a bird flying and I'm in the cage oof oof and I bothered because she's simply a bird flying and I'm not

32:11have you been in your own cage in this way and you're just figuring that out so let me tell you a story of something that I have experienced in the past that relates to this so I follow a lot of brilliant talented women actually that's that's my standard desire only follow brilliant talented women and and they all have very different businesses and lifestyles and you know I don't want to follow people who do it like me and who live lives like me that's boring like I'm doing that I want I want to see different examples and different types of people and I want to see different approaches on social media that's that's what I like my social media for and when I do this and you know these people that I follow I will come across things

33:13that I'm like oh okay okay well well that's that's one way to go about it so one example is I was I don't even remember who the person is and and I feel comfortable sharing this story because there's there's a lot of women who do this online and I've really changed my perspective on it but in the past I used to see this behavior and I used to cringe and make fun of it but I'm talking about women who would like dance in their content okay and what I would see is like women you know maybe they're an energy healer or I it doesn't matter what it is that they do bits typically the case it's some sort of spiritual business and they're so free in their bodies and in their minds and and one of their ways to express themselves is through dance and they

34:16will create content where they are very sensually dancing for the world to see and again I would see this and I would cringe and be like oh my like how you know and and I would I would make I would literally make fun not obviously not publicly I'm not a bully but like in my own mind making fun is in the work because that's not what I would do but I would for sure pass a little bit of judgment on them and and just like I almost like couldn't look away to I'd be like oh my gosh you know and I'd be like amazed but not in a good way amazing kind of a judgy way and it would just sit there and be like oh what are they thinking like I don't get it that's not whatever and when fully judge and then I started to really pay attention to these things I'm not

35:20just by the way I'm not just sharing this stuff with you because I'm like this makes good content let me let me share some things that I just made up that I don't do I came up with these things because I navigated it myself I I got curious myself over my own journey and trust me it was not linear but I was like at some point I began getting curious and I was like what is it about this that bothers me and it wasn't that I thought what they were doing was bad I was like no that's not they're not they're doing nothing bad as a matter of fact what they're doing is is beautiful and then from doing digging I actually discovered that like while I was cringing there was also this like deeper admiration happening below the surface there was this level of like jealousy happening jealousy that I didn't really understand yet nor I don't think I was ready to admit

36:28to myself because then I would have to look at it and be like okay well what's going on here I would then have to take responsibility for it so then it was masked with like a cring in a very surface level judgment but going deep where I was like wait a second I actually admire that would I do that myself probably not it's simply not my form of expression right in in the same way that I'm not Buddhist it's not like I'm Christian I'm not Buddhist but I don't pass judgment by who's Buddhist actually admire people who who are Buddhist it's just not you know so like it's not my form of expression it's not the way it's not the way that I believe it's not whatever it's just not who I am so I wouldn't do that but also the fact that I

37:28admire it and the fact that like there's a little bit of jealousy I realized I was the bird in the cage witnessing a bird flying a bird flying in a way that I've never flown before here's a better way to say it I was a bird who was in my own cage witnessing a bird flying at a at a height I had never thought was possible for myself I was witnessing a woman being so free in her body and free of other people's judgment whether she felt it or not she's still like she showed up regardless and I was not allowing myself that same freedom in my own way my own proverbial sensual dancing whatever whatever that means for me I wasn't letting myself do that do you see how much more

38:38impactful and liberating that awareness has versus just saying ew can't be me it's I mean I mean you're I wasn't a different person after having that that level of like wait a second wait a second why do I feel that way would I do that differently okay am I the bird in the oh I'm the bird in the cage guess what guys you can be a free bird you can be the bird flying in different areas of your life and still be so fully locked in the cage in other areas of your life you can be a free bird in one part of an area and a locked bird in the same area but another part of

39:41it I was free on the internet and in many ways but still was was vanillaing myself lacroying myself in other ways there's levels to this there's it's an onion it is an onion there's so many layers it's crazy so we're gonna wait to react we're gonna get curious why is this bothering me and then we're gonna ask can I do it differently should I do it differently am I the bird in the cage and she's flying and then the fourth the fourth set here is if a response is required or if you choose to respond in any way shape or form we first elevate we we're waiting to react and in the meantime before we respond we elevate what is your highest standard

40:48if every single one of your clients were to see your response on this person's post how would you feel or what would your response be would there be a response if you fully believed that your actions held a certain level of impact if you truly believed in your power as a woman as a brand as a woman of influence as a business owner as a mother if you fully believed in your power and the impact and the reverberation of your words and your actions what would your response be then what would your response be and and would there even be a response now I want you for two seconds to imagine to imagine the difference of what that response

41:51would be at that moment after going through those four steps and elevating yourself to what your initial reaction would have been night and day I guarantee it night and day I just saved a lot of people's brands and reputations I just saved a lot y'all from getting canceled okay thank you or you're welcome okay so that's when you you're the one being bothered okay we don't have time guys son if you if you really understood how powerful you are and the potential for your greatness that is within you that is either currently bubbling to the surface or simply lying dormant you would understand how beneath you it is to be bothered by people on the internet

42:52it is so beneath you being bothered is a very human reaction but it's also a very normal human reaction you're not normal now when I say bothered I don't mean you see something actually that's a problem and you don't handle it right like see something say something if you are seeing something if you are seeing something that clearly goes against your your integrity your values and it's it's something like as a leader that you should rest that's different that's different I'm not saying that we we become numb to everything that we see online that's not what I'm saying there's a difference between being bothered by some of these behavior and being disturbed by something disturbing big big big big difference okay now when you are the one

43:58bothering you're the one who's ruffling the feathers okay in the cage you little feather breathful are you when you're doing the bothering darling here's what we want to do we're going to follow essentially the same steps so we're going to talk through them because there's a different approach to them okay so a lot of times we're not even going to know that we're doing it obviously I mean I don't know I feel like if you're if you're being fully you know it's it's going to get under some skin and over time you get used to this it becomes normalized because it's a thing right like you again like when you when you are your true flavor you're going to have super fancy that flavor and then you're going to have people who are allergic to the flavor and who I hate the flavor and a lot of times these people don't say anything at all great but a lot of times people do say things so I'm talking about when you are being you're full as you

45:04and you are fully shining your light and somebody says something about it whether they slide into your DMs or they make a comment at a family reunion or at a girl's brunch or whatever they bring it up to you clearly the feathers are ruffled you have you have bothered them in some way here are the steps again if possible we wait to react if this is on the internet you wait to react you do not need to respond even if they can see that you read the DM we do not respond immediately we already know why so we wait to react by yourself sometime by yourself some grace second we're going to get curious again but the question that we are asking ourselves this time is

46:08am I or was I acting in integrity with who I am and my highest standard for myself my business and my brand whatever they're discussing or talking about was that just me being me or did I did I do something here because guys we we make mistakes even when we're being our full as selves right there's and there's a big difference between somebody's who's hating us the hating on us or who hates us or somebody who's who's genuinely giving criticism and and feedback now the package that that feedback comes in matters but there's a difference is this person hating on you or are they voicing constructive or even non-constructive feedback that might actually be useful to hear

47:16but maybe it just came in a shitty package so if you ask yourself am I was I acting in integrity with who I am and my highest standard for self for business for whatever if the answer is yes you're Gucci that's on them okay if not we need to go deeper what's going on here how would I have done that differently is there some sort of action that needs to be taken whatever that is whatever is appropriate for the situation so if a response is needed the third step here is again we elevate we then tap into this the that higher standard for our self our highest self the highest level of integrity and if a response is needed then after we channeled that version of ourselves now what's the response and then after that we celebrate we celebrate okay I made a mistake

48:26and I handled it like a boss or no that was me and you were bothered and I'm going to celebrate that because I am bold enough and fearless enough to not be bothered by you being bothered to not be so bothered by you being bothered by me that I changed my behavior or I retract that statement or do anything differently and then you're going to keep doing you and then you're just going to keep doing you and it's okay it's fully fully okay that you get bothered by somebody else being bothered that's fine again we're human but just pause and and take a beat and think about it think about how you would respond and if a response is necessary so do you see how powerful of a thought process that is and a process that is versus what 99% of the population does

49:34which is none of that which is see something that you don't like say something nasty or do something nasty and let it impact your whole day or at least your energy even without you realizing it we're better than that we're better than that and we're bigger than that we are leaders even if you are a leader of one you are a leader and you are a leader of one you're a leader of yourself and that's where it starts you know how you start getting followers and being seen as a leader you lead yourself and this is one of the biggest tests that we experience as women who are growing businesses and brands on the internet is navigating other people's actions and perceptions and our perceptions and actions on the internet and triggers and and opportunities for being bothered

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