Is there a way to improve parental burnout?

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1:02I think it's a bit of everyone, isn't it? I mean, life is so busy. My mom was over recently. I'm from Scotland and she was saying, I don't think it was like this when I was rearing you. I think life is so incredibly busy now. There's so many activities, but really important to say that on the flip side of that, I meet loads of parents as well who are really worried about their children because they don't do anything, because maybe they don't even get up out of bed, maybe they do, maybe they don't go to school, but then after that they do nothing, they do no activities. And that also leads to really severe emotional burnout for parents from the worry of it. 59% of parents felt involved in their child's education down from 80% in 2023. Now again, I've been happy about the issues for a bit this evening at this morning. I'm going back to the issues where I have to say my mother and my father were very dedicated in making sure that I went to school, but the second that I went to school to my problem and not theirs, was it, is this just a correction that parents perhaps got a little

2:03bit too involved in schooling over the last couple years and that has robbed children of independence? Well, I think you do make a good point. I mean, there's so much information out there, isn't there, about what parents should be doing. And I also think this is what's leading to the burnout of muddying the waters, because there's so much, I mean, there's just so much noise about parenting, about you should be doing this, you should be spending time in this way sitting and connecting and tuning in. And do you know what, just look at your child, see what they need, see what you need, see what you can manage as a family. I think we've just stripped it back and simplify it a bit, take away all the pressure of what you should be doing. 25% of mothers had to take on paid leave in the school holidays to care for their children, 20% of men had to do it as well. How do we manage this before again? Yeah, well, I do think that the school holidays here are really young again. I'll heart back to the 80s in Scotland. It was six weeks holiday you got then, so it's a lot easier to manage, but also society is different now, isn't it? You know, things could be perceived as being

3:08more dangerous for children out there. I think it's almost an impossible one for parents to manage, really, I mean, I meet so many moms and dads who are kind of almost trying to dodge you are a little bit over the summer, logging on, running home, running, running a business, or keeping their job going. I mean, of course, that's going to lead to burnout, right? Yeah, that work-life balance has become really, really tricky, but you mentioned the internet, and I wonder how much of that feeds into the fact that 20% of parents have cited deep anxiety about getting parenting right. When you were constantly looking at your phone and your scrolling and your seeing parents doing this and organizing that kind of priority for their kids and doing this type of activity for their child, and their child is great because they did this, that's bound to put up your blood pressure. Oh, yeah. I mean, we're also vulnerable aren't we to comparing ourselves to other people? So I think, I mean, it's so liberating to just maybe take a break from social media, maybe just have it on a desktop so you can't view it all the time. You know, I think the most

4:09important thing about parenting to remember is that it's the quality, not the quantity, right? So if you can be off your phone as a parent, I work with some parents who actually lock the phone in the car when they come home from the day, so they can't be distracted, right? If parents are in a headspace where they're not distracted and they can listen to their child, they can play with them, they can hang out with them, this is the most important thing that children need. They need parents who are not distracted, so keep away from the phone. You know, you don't need that for the answer as you've got the answers already inside of you.