What Does It Actually Mean to Process an Emotion? - With John Kilmer

We say it all the time: "You need to process that." But what does that actually mean?

John Kilmer is back with Glenn and Phyllis to answer the question so many people are quietly asking, and the answer is simpler and more physical than you might think. Through Phyllis's childhood memory of being told she couldn't make a sound, her mother's pattern of getting sick after hard news, and John's year of crying in his car after 20 years without tears, this conversation shows what happens when emotion stays stuck in the body.

You'll walk away with three simple ways to start processing today: move, breathe, and make a sound.

In this episode:

•What "processing" an emotion really means, and the three ways to do it: movement, breath, and sound

•Why naming the core emotion out loud makes a difference (even at the grocery store)

•The emotional dam: why a "breakdown" never really happens on a Tuesday morning

•Phyllis's mom, the bronchitis pattern, and what unprocessed emotion can do to the body

•John's tip for when you can't feel it yet: ask, "What would my body do if it felt this?"

•Why getting outside helps, and why "nature is a big Ooh"

About John Kilmer:

John is an occupational therapist and Connection Codes certified coach with a deeply somatic, body-centered approach to emotional health. On his last visit, he led Glenn and Phyllis through the Core Emotion Wheel using sounds instead of words. He's currently writing a children's book about emotional health for families.

Resources mentioned:

•The Core Emotion Wheel → https://connectioncodes.co/cew

•Find a certified Connection Codes coach → https://connectioncodes.co/coaches

•Reach John Kilmer directly → mailto:[email protected]

•John Kilmer's book documentary → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUBjxH2k1Yg

•Join our community → https://app.connectioncodes.co/